Don’t get me wrong, I am happily married to my husband and we have out hitches here and there but we are always trying on a constant basis to find level ground to make our relationship work. Any relationship needs constant work, be it a spiritual relationship, educational, marital etc. You need to make an effort else everything especially your time and emotions will just go down the drain.
I have been married for just 3 years, some reading thismight be older in marriage than I am but I believe it is a case of differentstrokes for different folks. I cannot talk to my husband the way my friendtalks to hers, he might be offended by it or I cannot dress the way she doesbecause it doesn’t work for me or my style.
I am sure you get the picture I am trying to paint here. Itis usually between the two that are involved in the relationship; you bothdecide the tempo, how you deal with your differences, how and when to draw theline especially when it comes to a third party, who do you look up to? I hope it’snot the Social media kinda love goals …
So with that said, I believe that from a woman’s standpoint she needs to be conscious of herself and keep some things in mind when it comes to her man. We are said to be the emotional ones, the weaker sex but for a fact, I think we are the stronger sex, and even as emotional as we can be, if we put our minds to get things done we do! That does not mean Men are not emotional and sensitive.
It has taken me a while to get these tips together but I wouldlove to hear from you too in the comments section. What do you think? Are thesetips viable? Do you have more tips that you live by?
Let’s educate each other but in the meantime, mine goes thus…
HOLD ON! I have to write a disclaimer! These tips only applyif you have a man that understands and responds positively to these. Some just don’twant to be bothered. So watch it, don’t be nosy, and don’t say I sent you.
Shout out to my sisters that stay in a wrapper from dusk todawn. Those that have their bath only at night or once in two days, you thinkhe doesn’t see that?
What’s your excuse? I am taking care of the kids? Oh HellNO! That has to stop. Have your bath as soon as you can or don’t let him comehome and see you the way he left you in the morning. And why do you tie wrapperup and down the house? A robe is a better option.
Keep your hair clean. It must not be an expensive weave or wig, just keep it clean as much as you can. Groom your nails etc.
Call him at intervals during the day to check on him, or send a DM. Ask him about his lunchtime at work, so you have an idea when it’s best to place a call or a send a message. When he gets back home, keep the phones down and catch up on each other’s day. If you cannot keep the phones down, then chat about it as you sit opposite each other.
Be interested in his hustle, or work or business. Yes, find out about his business deals, how he negotiates, who he is in business with or what’s going on at work. But this only applies if he shows that he wants you to be interested else it will seem like you are prying into his business. Please don’t be involved in his phone dealings except he asks you too … Nothing good comes out of snooping around your Man’s phone.
Self-growth or improvement is important. Whether you man approves it or not. You know some men like seeing their spouse stock in one spot forever. While some want theirs to make it to the Forbes list. So in the latter case, try to learn new things to upgrade yourself and stay relevant whether you are a stay at home mom or a working-class mom or girlfriend as the case may be.
Okay! Food is the way to a man’s heart. We all have heard our moms say this. Well, in my opinion not when you feed him junk unless that’s what you both enjoy. A well thought out meal, as simple as possible can make all the difference. Make him look forward to coming home to a warm meal. Whether it’s cooked by your help or it’s all you. Give him something spectacular once in a while. If he is the type that likes street food such as chips, roasted bole and fish, pepper soup you can make it a Friday treat once in a while. You can learn online if you don’t know how to make these. YouTube is the best place to learn how to make most dishes. Don’t sleep on this tip.
Hmmm. This should be number one on this list but I didn’t plan the list in any particular order. So here we are. I don’t think there is a schedule to this unless you both decide to have one. Unplanned sex is always the way to go if you ask me. Find out what you are comfortable with and tow that path. Don’t impose yourself on each other, that is a huge turn off for me though. Just let it come naturally. If you don’t feel like it then turn it down politely. Sex eases off a lot especially when it comes to marriage, it like a bond and a lubricant that eases off the tension and friction that both parties come across daily.
I hope I have made some sense in this post and you don’t feelbored at all…
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